Just because you are surrounded by people does not mean you are not alone. That is not what defines being alone. You may have plenty of pretty friends dressed in branded clothes and decorated with expensive gadgetries. You probably share with them times filled with laughter – they tell a story, you tell a story, and everyone has a good laugh. You probably go to expensive restaurants and flashy bars with them and just have a good time. You probably stay long hours in coffee shops commenting on the latest trends, laughing at funny people passing by, and teasing every flaw in meals served on the table.
But ask yourself: When there is nothing to do, do you have someone who will sit beside you for hours just doing nothing? When you are down, is there someone who would notice and make an effort to know why? When you are depressed and frustrated, is there someone you can pour your worries to and would listen with care? When you are on a downward path, is there someone who would jump in, sacrifice time and effort, and do everything in his power to pull you back because that person genuinely feels love for you? When you need to leave and go somewhere far away, is there a friend you can still truly call a friend even after not having a connection for years or even decades because you are confident they will stay a friend no matter what?
When you have nothing more to give, is there someone who would stay because what that person needs is ‘you’ and not anything you can give?
Not everyone is blessed with ‘true friends’. If you have one, treasure them. If you are caught being surrounded by ‘cliché friends’ only, start reallocating your time and effort and find yourself some ‘true friends’ – those who will stick with you through thick and thin.
By: Franz Pascobillo